Let Go; Let God

Let Go. . .

What’s interesting about this day is that I heard messages about “letting go” for three times, from three different persons (Last Tuesday, it was the phrase “lead by example” that I heard for three times from three different people). The first message - I heard (actually I didn’t hear it, it was a text message, so I read it) from my big brother (but not by blood) Kuya Allen. The second message – I heard from our truly unequaled professor in Literature – Sir Hibek. The last one – I heard from actress Ms. Cherry Pie Picache – we had an open forum with her after watching an alternative movie featuring her. But this blog isn’t about stars or being starstrucked but speaking of stars, this same day, I met (or more likely – nakasalubong) Pen Medina in Gateway Mall. He wasn’t really that tall, that’s all. Okay, so back to the true topic. . .hehe

Regarding Memories

Memories play a key role in the lives of Homo sapiens. Imagine living a life without memories! According to our beloved and very eccentric unique professor in literature, memories – whether good or bad, happy or sad – are a blessing. Then he asked the class: “When does a memory become a curse?” When no one inside that cold, dark, and dirty classroom could give him a satisfying answer, he did what any sensible teacher would have done – he answered his own question: “A memory becomes a curse when you cannot let go!” he said. “We forgive, but. . .do we forget?”. And indeed the old man is right. How exactly could we really forget!? It is definitely easier said than done. You see, the pain of letting go arises from the fact that unlike unused or unwanted files in a computer – memories cannot be erased or deleted simply by clicking the delete option. In fact, typically speaking, memories cannot be erased at all. They can only be repressed, or buried in our subconscious, or in our unconscious mind.

How to Begin

There is only way to start the process of letting go. We must learn to face the reality of the situation, the reality of the memory. We must desensitize ourselves with what happened. It is not gonna be easy! No way! It could make us cry, weep, and feel bitter, but we must not give up trying to accept what happened. You see, we cannot always prevent ourselves from having false expectations or hopes, and we do not always want to face and experience the frustrations and disappointments that come with those false expectations. But the challenge in being a human being is learning to accept that this is an imperfect and evil world, and yet, being able to hope for good, beautiful, and happy things.

The Solution

One very effective way to be able to let go and face the frustration that came from false expectations is to place our trust in God – the kind of trust that places God’s Standards higher than our standards. You see, we may have a particular job, type of life, or future, or person in mind, and when we do not get it, we feel bad, at worst, we feel angry towards God. But Genuine Trust helps us to believe that God has the best in store for us. It may not be evident at the moment, that’s why it requires faith. Besides, there’s really not much we could do about it, so might as well leave it to God. You see, if you know God and if you have a relationship with Him, then your future’s already decided man! So go on. . .Let go

. . .and Let God

© 2009, Karl Zion M. Remojo

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